Relationship

Marriage

In eight weeks time I will have been married for a whole year.

When I got married last year, I wasn’t sure I was doing the right thing. I didn’t even know if I loved my husband, let alone wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. Marriage was a way of making us a family, changing my surname to the same as our little girl’s and being seen as ‘traditional’. I went into marriage with the idea that I could always get a divorce. Even a month later, I was considering an annulment.

Nearly a whole year has passed and my views of marriage have completely changed. My husband and I have become a team. We will always bicker – and we are very dramatic – but he has shown himself to be the most selfless, caring husband that I could ever have asked for. I want my marriage to be forever, and despite our ups and downs, it is not something that I ever plan to give up on. Don’t get me wrong, marriage is hard work, and I underestimated just how hard it would be. We don’t agree on everything, I get on his nerves and sometimes I want to kill him. It is incredible, however, that I have someone to share my hopes and my dreams with, to tell my deepest secrets to and to have someone that will love me unconditionally – flaws and all. Sometimes I look forward to going to bed with him because that’s when our most honest conversations take place, a safe haven where I know that, no matter what, I won’t be judged.

After only ten months, our marriage has encountered some difficult times where I didn’t think it would be possible to stay together, and yet he has always proved me wrong. It has also involved some of the best moments of my life. One of the biggest challenges that we have faced is having a baby, and our marriage is a partnership where we are able to raise her together. When Little R has been an absolute diva all day, husband comes home and let’s me have a breather – a few moments alone where I don’t have to think about anyone or anything. Even small things, like cuddling in bed on a Sunday morning as a family are the memories that I will hold forever.

If I was to be asked what marriage meant to me now, my answer would be completely different to last year. Marriage is forgiveness, it is embracing another’s flaws as your own, it is teamwork and an unconditional partnership, it is coming home to a cuddle and a kiss, it is the simple things like asking about your day, it is giving your whole being – mind, body and soul to another and still remaining independent, it is being truly comfortable in front of another person. Although I am aware that my husband and I go together like chalk and cheese, marrying my husband was one of the greatest things that I have ever done.

The last year really has been a journey that we have embarked upon together, and I wouldn’t change any of it.

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54 thoughts on “Marriage

  1. Such a lovely post and I’m so happy to hear that you’ve reached such a happy place after a year! Marriage isn’t easy at times, but there is something about it which makes you try and invest. I hope you have a second happy year…and beyond! #fortheloveofBLOG

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  2. Totally agree with you Catherine.. Marriage is definitely a journey where you learn and grow, where you treasure what matters the most. πŸ™‚
    #FortheloveofBLOG

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  3. What an amazing and honest post. Thank you for sharing. Marriage really is a journey. I know i should work harder at times but I look at our parents and in-laws and really admire the journey they have made and where they are 40 years down the line πŸ™‚ #Sharingthebloglove

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  4. It really does take a lot of work to make a relationship work but it’s good to hear to were able to work through your problems together. Happy Anniversary
    Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday.

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  5. Happy Anniversary! You have to work at a marriage every single day and the moment that you stop is when you will find yourself going down a different path. Its tough at times when you have children, but its so worth it. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

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  6. Marriage in definitely a journey, and it is total work. But, at the end of the day, it’s definitely always worth it. It’s amazing how life works, and I’m so happy that you’ve found your best friend. Happy early Anniversary ❀ #KCACOLS

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  7. I love how honest you are in this post and I’m so glad that Acer your initial reservations, you’ve found strength in your marriage and feel like a good unit. Congratulations on making it through the first year. Thank you for joining the #weekendblogshare

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  8. A very beautiful post. I’m not married, my partner and I have been together four years this November though, living and having a family together is hard work that’s for sure but I like that being married just gives you another connection, another way to be a part of the team. #kcacols

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  9. Wow what a beautiful an honest post. Marriage is far too often painted as a fairytale but it’s rarely like that. It can still be wonderful though if you work as a team πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘ŒπŸ» #fortheloveofBLOG

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  10. What a brace decision to go through with the marriage if you had so many doubts. Marriage really is hard work but I’ve been married 5 years now an I can safely say it is worth every ounce of work it takes. Having that one person who loves you so close is invaluable. Good luck and I hope you have the lifetime marriage that you want. X
    #KCACOLS

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  11. Happy anniversary! Marriage is definitely hard work and just as you think you’ve found the right balance it all gets shaken up with the arrival of a baby πŸ™‚ I’m glad to hear you and your hubby where able to work through your difficult times and hopefully you’ll have many more anniversaries to follow x #KCACOLS

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  12. I’m so glad you have pulled together as a team and seen the true value in each other and in your marriage. It is a very precious gift, even if you have to keep working it at. Great post #KCACOLS

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  13. What a beautiful post my lovely. I agree, children can absolutely make a marriage or, sadly, push it to the very limits. I’m so glad you’ve come through the inevitable challenges and you’re looking forward to loads more years together! Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday xx

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  14. I’m so glad your marriage is going well. All marriages take work but having someone there to have your back is priceless. I would not be without the Hubby. πŸ™‚
    Thanks for linking to #pocolo

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  15. Hi, I’ve been married 3 months and not every moment has been unicorns and rainbows either but marriage is about working together to fix whatever crap life decides to throw at you this week and yes you do eventually become stronger because of it all πŸ™‚ tip – changing 2 cars in one month is a recipe for disaster ! πŸ™ˆ

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  16. I have been with my husband for over 18 years and it is a lot of work, a lot of growing and learning. I appreciate an honest post like this because Marriage is not a fairy tale but if everyone puts in the work it can be beautiful and rewarding. I wish you both many more years of happiness.

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  17. The first time I married I walked in with this idea that marriage is all fun, this time around I buckled up for some challenges and it worked!

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  18. Congratulations on your first year! I’ve been married for 13 years. Early on, I thought we would get all the kinks to work out and live in harmony for the rest of our lives. You get some things worked out, but along the way you realize certain trends form. It’s a continual effort, but pays tremendous dividends. For more on effective communication check out this post I recently wrote about our complaints http://www.ajourneyofprogress.com/2016/11/07/complaining/. I enjoyed your post!

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  19. I love your honesty! Your post is one of the reasons I decided to read more blogs. I’m going on a little over two years of marriage, and it is nice reading something honest about marriage. Congratulations on your growth and newfound perspective of marriage πŸ™‚

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  20. In the life of a newlywed – I find myself longing for this comforting moment in my marriage! I’ll keep reading to see how you hold up. Please stop by to see my progress as well. Thanks!

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