I’ve always loved the quote, ‘Your vibe attract your tribe’, but I’ve only recently understood it properly. I have always tried my hardest to be kind to everyone, but I think when you are surrounded by toxic people your judgement can become clouded. The one person, whoever, I have never concentrated on being kind to was myself. I had really low self-esteem, and my mental health was in a really bad way. After a conversation with my counsellor, I decided that I was going to try and stop being so negative about myself. It helps that I now have my own little flat and my own garden, I have B-Dog living back with me and I have family and friends that are fabulous. Everything seems to be falling into place, and it makes me love myself all over again.
I have always known I have amazing friends, but it wasn’t until I was in a really dark place that I truly understood how incredible they are. I remember going out for a meal with one of my friends and telling her about a parking ticket I had recieved and not paid off. She turned and said to me “Why didn’t you tell me sooner? We could have done something about it.” I think it was one of those moments that I will remember forever, and I am sure it will be something that she won’t have given a second thought about. For me, it made me realise how truly incredible she was; that no matter how rubbish the situation I was in, she would always be there with me. I have never doubted her friendship but when she would use terms like ‘we’ when i discussed my problems, it really hit home that she was such a fabulous person.
Similarly, whilst I was living in a Travelodge, I had very few clothes for myself, or Little R. A friend from university went shopping to Next for a whole wardrobe for Little R and when I protested, gave me some rubbish excuse about how she really enjoys shopping for little girls and she doesn’t often get chance to. She really helped me out, and she had a wonderful taste in clothes, despite my sister’s moaning!
Since moving into my flat, I have become really good friends with two mechanics that live near me. They have helped me out massively with my car, even in the short time I have had it, and they often will pop around in the evening for a cup of tea. Their company is something that I really appreciate, and they are both such kind and wonderful people to have in my life. Everyone that I have come across seems to be amazing. The man who came to fix my boiler (I’m not 100% it was my boiler, but he did something in the airing cupboard?!) was another one of these positive people I had the good fortune to meet, and each time I have seen him since he is full of such kind words.
Whilst I have mentioned a couple of people here, I, by no means, disregard the friendship and the help of anyone else. My family, particularly my sister and my mum, have kept me sane through, what can only be describe as, a really shitty time. For some reason, my sister has taken it upon herself to try and help Little R and I so much that I can’t ever seem to get rid of her from my house. Most evenings she ‘pops in’ for a cuppa, and is still sat in my living room seven hours, fours pints of milk, a bag of chips and three chocolate bars later. For someone that I really didn’t get on with growing up, she really seems to have sorted herself out and she’s amazing. I have become friendly with a group of women called ‘Punky Moms’, who are the kindest bunch of women that I have ever met. As a random act of kindness, one of the women – Mama.Wrote – painted me the most beautiful watercolour of Bertie to hang in my house.
It is only since removing the toxic people from my life that I have come to realise what incredible people I am surrounded by. I am so unbelievably lucky to have met such wonderful people, and I cannot thank all of them enough for everything that they do for me, Little R and B-Dog.
And do you know what? Your vibe really does attract your tribe.